If you’re a friend, there’s a few things you need to know before you start coming into my orbit. I grew up the victim of abuse and it’s taken me a very long time to learn that there are things I don’t need to put up with in my life. This freedom of self that allows me to embark on my journey of self-discovery is a wonderful gift that I don’t plan on giving up so if you want to be around me then you need to be aware of some stuff.

There is no one on the planet who will be as loyal as I am. You never have to worry about someone watching your back because I’ve got it no matter the circumstances. I may not know what I’m doing but I’ll be there and we’ll worry about raising bail later.

If ever you need anything, all you need to do is ask. If I have it, it’s yours. If I don’t have it, I’ll find a way to get it. If I have it and I need it, I’ll share or find more. There will never be a time, day or night, when you cannot call or text because you need a listening ear. Be forewarned, if you call in the middle of the night I may not be completely coherent but I’ll give what I got.

I will always try to add dimension and value to your life because I believe that’s what a friend does. I will always be honest even when it hurts because that’s important and you will know you can count on me no matter what.

You need to know, though, that as my friend I have certain battles that I fight and causes I believe in. I grew up in a racist, abusive family so I fight against racism and abuse in all its forms. I work very hard to understand other people’s view points even if they’re foreign or alien to me. I try to be kind to others even though I fail a lot of times. I try not to shame or humiliate anyone unless that’s their kink and then I respect boundaries. I will always rescue the animal who is hurt, lost or alone and try to heal them. I will always acknowledge the First Nation Peoples of North America and try to respect their culture. I will try to help newcomers to my country understand how to get what they need to succeed and I will cheer them on when they work hard to get further in their life.

I am a chaos witch and I do not choose my battles lightly.

The thing I will not do is be silent when my causes make you uncomfortable. When you spew racist rhetoric or jokes, I’ll call you on them. When you’re spouting rape jokes or dead baby jokes, I’ll be there to verbally slap you silly.

I will always try to understand your views because they grew out of your life and your experiences as much as mine did. If you are my friend then you will  respect my views as you do me. I don’t demand you agree with them and I may not always agree with you. But there are some things I will not budge on and if you are my friend you will respect that.

If you cannot do that, then leave.